When asked “What trait does David have that makes you know he is yours?” Neshonne answers, “David is mentally strong. He has the tendency to think decisions through and be much more cautious than I am, especially when it comes to financial decisions. I often refer to him as my “balance.” He will analyze, break down, and consider all the different outcomes before making a decision. It has served us well over the years.”
When Neshonne is in David’s arms, she experiences peace, calm, and serenity.
For Better or for Worse
The McDonalds feel like they could do a better job of spending more time in prayer together. “The worst year in our marriage was the 5th year. It was the beginning of a downward spiral that ultimately ended in divorce some years later.”
For Richer or for Poorer
Their relationship is rich in long-suffering. When there is poor communication Neshonne says, “My mind fills in the blanks or creates a scenario that is much more complicated and a misunderstanding can go from a fender bender to train wreck. ”
Through Sickness and in Health
In year 6 of their marriage, David’s mother was diagnosed with Breast Cancer. “We relocated back to TN to be closer during her last days. It was easy being there for him. I wanted to be as strong as humanly possible. His mother was his world, and they were very close.” During this time Neshonne says that she listened more than she spoke and held her husband as much as she could. “After David’s mother passed, we endured a long, emotional walk back to faith.”
The way that David and Neshonne have learned to maintain the health of their relationship this time around is through communicating more and MORE effectively. “I don’t hold grudges or “stay in my feelings” to validate my point. He opens up more and feels more comfortable sharing his true thoughts and emotions.” They CHOOSE to deal with conflict differently, and it has made a world of a difference.
To Love and to Cherish
Nashonne confesses, “Before marriage, I’m not sure what I thought love was, but now, I know it is a totally selfless, free expression of grace and forgiveness that induces, but does not demand, reciprocity.” David cherishes Neshonne by believing in her when she doesn’t believe in herself.
Til Death Do Us Part
Neshonne’s thoughts on death… “On this side of 40, I can say that death is much more of a concern than it was 20 or even 10 years ago. Every day, my goal is to not take anything for granted- especially this time around. God gave me to David to keep me balanced. He keeps me focused and in the middle. He is a provider and a problem solver. He is the anchor for our family.” Even though she is well aware that death is inevitable the very thought of not having David around throws her off-kilter.
Something Old Something New
Although David’s old school advice is the familiar phrase “Happy wife, happy life.” His new school advice was not so familiar, so I looked up the meaning to “Bands will make her dance.” If you want a good laugh, I suggest you look up the meaning of this new school advice.
Something Borrowed Something Blue
David’s borrowed advice is “Take care of home first.” He advises husbands to “Give until it hurts and then give some more.” David would like for Neshonne to answer the question… Neshonne’s question for David is “How can I love you better?” When asked the question, “If you had the chance to do it all over again what would you do differently?” The McDonalds responded, “We actually did get the chance to do it all over again. It’s not perfect, but it’s perfectly imperfect for us.” They are often asked the question, “Is it better the second time around?” Their response is an emphatic “YES! I wish that I would not have given up so easily the first time. I wish that I had more patience, better communication, more self-confidence, and self-worth back then. I wish that I understood the value of love, family, and commitment. I wish that I knew the power of my vows and trusted the God who graced us for those 12 years of marriage.” They know their years together would have been different. “Today, I am so grateful for the Second Chance, our Mulligan! We won’t waste it. It is truly a gift to receive the most Divine Reconciliation.”
For the reader: What question do you have for this couple?