Our oldest daughter recently had the pleasure of attending the 35th Annual Fun-Set Social and Charity Club Beautillion Ball. She was an escort for a friend who was a beau in the ball. The Beautillion season highlights the success of young African American males. Beaus attend seminars with a focus on spiritual, social, educational and economic growth. The annual Beautillion Ball is a culmination of educational activities and fun.
We were honored for her to be invited, but we were even more excited to get to attend with her. My husband is a hardcore helicopter parent, so having a valid reason to be present was right up his alley. We have a great rapport with the young man who invited her and we’ve been friends with his family for over a decade. But she’s his baby girl, and he delighted in being right by her side. The way my husband assisted our daughter with her dress, watched her on the dance floor and pulled out her chair when she would sit reminded me of so many of the reasons I fell in love with him.
Recently someone heard me and my husband’s testimony of secondary virginity and thought it wasn’t “real”. They weren’t implying that it was too fanciful. They were insinuating that it wasn’t “real” like, “BIG DEAL, who cares that you had sex before marriage and chose to practice abstinence while you were pregnant.” And all I could think of was, “God cares.”
Sometimes when people say things like, “I’m just being real.” What they really mean is that they are being “real” carnal. If people can’t receive from you because they don’t perceive you as being “real” don’t compromise your values, lower your standards, or remove healthy boundaries because of their opinion. The truth is, they may have a problem with your testimony because it highlights that God is real. It’s their brokenness that keeps them from celebrating how God’s REAL love has made you whole.
He treats me like a princess because I’m a daughter of the King.
There’s no need for me to be stressed because I am his Good Thing.
He’s my Knight in Shining Armor the one who makes me brave.
You might wonder how he does it, it’s all because he’s Saved.
When a man is in love with The Lover of his Soul,
His love won’t leave you broken, it will only make you whole.
He can’t see you as royalty if he doesn’t seek the King.
If he does not honor God he won’t know you are a Queen.
Don’t settle for a boy when you can have a Prince.
Set your standards high and do not straddle the fence.
Boundaries keep you safe, they prevent you from a fall.
Your body is a temple protect the palace walls.
Far above rubies, more precious than silver and gold.
Why settle for lust filled fragments when real love can make you whole?
© Toya Poplar 2016
If you want to hear, “Well done thou good and faithful servant.” Keep doing well and stay faithful to God’s Word.
Marriage is our ministry but purity will always be our passion. If you ever need someone to share the message of how powerful purity is, connect with us. We believe that purity empowers you to plan your future without looking back at your past. And we know from experience that it’s never too late to wait.