Holiday Babies

Happy Unbirthday

Anyone born around the holidays knows what it is like to not really have a birthday. The resurrection of a Savior, independence of a nation and birth of Jesus, are tough acts to follow. Most of the people who I know that have holiday birthdays, spend all year celebrating others… Not just on their birthdays, but in wonderful ways for no reason at all. Maybe we are secretly compensating for what we rarely receive, or simply realize that it is not hard to make someone feel special.

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The Gift of Being Remembered

Lack of finances is always the excuse as to why holiday babies don’t have real birthdays, but we all know that it is the thought that counts, never the cost. Being remembered is one of the most extravagant gifts. There is no need to be rich to enrich someone’s life. This year, I won’t make any promises that I will remember all the people in my life who have holiday birthdays. As a mom of six, I’m doing good to remember the birthdays of my own children. I am going to give my best effort to remember myself, and hopefully in doing so I will encourage someone else to do the same.

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Overrated or Understated?

My favorite birthday memory from childhood is when my dad gave me a handkerchief, lemon drops and a comb from the five and dime store. I was so happy that someone acknowledged my birthday it did not matter how odd the gifts were. The gesture of being remembered that had me head over heels. I have always thought to myself, “birthdays are overrated,” but I wonder if that is the storyline I told myself to cope with feeling forgotten and unseen. This is not intended to be a “woe is me”plea for attention. I am sharing because this is a part of my journey. As I approach Forty I am not afraid to tell my truth.

The Gift That Kept On Giving

I have never had a birthday party and I can only recall a handful of truly “happy” birthdays. My husband makes a big deal about celebrating me but it always feels like too much. Rarely do I desire material things. I always long for things with meaning. One year I gave each one of my friends a self addressed stamped envelope as a gift to myself. I asked them to send me letters through out the year. This may sound narcissistic, but lovers of words will understand. I am willing to be misunderstood if it allows me to articulate something other holiday babies have been longing to express. Random letters in my mail box through out the year felt like I won a sweepstakes every month.

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Give People Their Flowers

This may sound cliche but I have always thought we should give people their flowers while they are alive to enjoy them. I have never understood why we send flowers after people die. I have every single letter that was mailed to me until this very day. I have been asked repeatedly, “What do you want for your birthday?” My consistent reply has been, “to feel special and be seen.” Your subscription to my blog and companionship on this journey has really caused my little love tank to overflow. Thank you for reading my words and listening to my heart. I am a middle aged, middle child who appreciates your attention more than mere words can ever convey.

Pay It Forward (To Yourself)

Here is my disclaimer, please don’t read this post and get the bright idea to do something in honor of me. Your comments, emails, and encouragement to keep writing has been more than enough. 40 days until 40 is the greatest gift I have ever given myself. What would bless me more than anything is to know that you are willing to give yourself permission to do something you really love. What is something that has been a desire hidden deep within your heart? Don’t you think it is time you started living life from the inside out?

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Reflection

Think about your friends, is there someone who makes a big deal about celebrating you? Are they a holiday baby? What are some creative ways that you can let them know that you care? If there is a unique way in which you plan to celebrate life this year, feel free to share in the comments below. Someone is bound to be inspired or encouraged by your idea.ย 

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12 thoughts on “Holiday Babies

  1. Hey birthday twin,
    I have been extremely blessed by my parents who still went above and beyond for my bday even though it was 4 days after Christmas. My mom made a BIGGGG deal out of the day we were born. Maybe because she lost her first child. But I carry the tradition as well and celebrate the life of my children too. Now as I am reaching 50 I’m looking back and saying I’m at the half way point of my life and I need to live without any regrets. I also don’t expect much now that my mom is gone to Glory to but to be thought of and acknowledge from my family and friends is a gift from God. Love you sister and I can’t wait to celebrate your 40rh year of life celebration!!

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    1. I thank my God every time I remember you. Philippians 1:3. Beautiful Tasha Pooh, oh how I love you! I took my time replying to you and somehow it got deleted. I almost cried because my initial response is the remark I really wanted to share. It blesses me to know that your mom made a big deal out of your birthdays. So now I understand where you learned to be Celebration Station. You make almost 50 look so good! I’ve never allowed myself to get excited about a birthday before but this year is different. I’m not just excited about the day, I am thankful for the different approach to life I plan to take. Our best is yet to come! Thanks for taking the time to read the overflow of my heart. But thanks even more so, for taking the time to share yours.

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  2. Thank you sweet December birthday sister! As a New Years Eve baby I totally get hear your heart and what a beautiful articulate selfless kind and all around awesome sauce heart you have! Keep writing! Your words change the atmosphere, usher in peace and offer hope! I am just one of many who are the recipient of your generous gift of encouragement and presence! I see you and hear you and I am eternally grateful! #WriteOn #WriteOut

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    1. I replied to this before and I’m not sure where my comment went. All I know is that you are a gift and my life is more sparkly because of your shiney presence! Looking forward to doing life together in 2017. Most of my favorite 2016 memories were shared with you my friend!

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  3. Reblogged this on and commented:
    As a New Years Eve baby, I echo my dear friend’s heart in this post! I know you will be blessed by her words and I hope you choose to subscribe to her blog , https://stopwritethere.wordpress.com ! You won’t be sorry but you will be inspired and challenged to take your next best step toward becoming all you were destined to be, a beautiful bright spot who brings out the God-colors in the world around you! #shine highlighting your Creator and pointing the world to Christ! #ReadOn

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  4. As the mother of a New Year’s baby, I give credit to my Dec 30th birthday brother for drilling into me that holiday Birthdays were too often overlooked to make it important to me to always remember my daughter’s birthday uniquely…just as if it was what it is…her day to be celebrated.
    To all those holiday babies without uncles to train up their mommas in the wisdom of proper holiday birthday celebrations: Happy Birthday to your beautiful souls!

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  5. You truly described my thoughts and experiences to the “T” on being a holiday baby. My heart is to make others happy all year round. You are such a blessing to me! Happy birthday to all of you holiday babies!

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    1. Mari, the way you love to give and celebrate others was part of my inspiration for this post. I starTesto reflect on all my friends who give with no expectation and noticed a common thread amongst holiday babies. We tend to be celebrators.Hope you know how much I celebrate you sweet friend! You are amazing! I’m so glad to have you in my life.

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  6. So grateful for your post! I’m a New Year’s Eve baby as well. My dad always told me as a kid that the fireworks that were going off were for me, that everyone in the world was celebrating my birthday. Lol! Of course, as I hit adolescence, reality set in. Don’t get me wrong, I can’t say people don’t remember my birthday, but it’s more of an afterthought for most, on my actual birthday, or I may get to celebrate it w/my family the day after or a couple days after. Truth is I’m not big on receiving gifts. I mean I’m thankful for them and of course love what I’m given, it is the thought that counts, but I’ve never wished for an abundance of birthday gifts. It’s not my love language, however, words of affirmation and quality time are. The things that are in short supply on my birthday, for most people anyway. It’s a busy day and most people are trying to get ready for their New Years Eve festivities, myself included. I’ve always told myself I was ok with that and refuse to have a pity party over it. And I’m thankful for the ones who do make it appoint to really remember, to go out of their way to send me a birthday card or even just say “Happy Birthday.” FACEBOOK has helped a lot by reminding the world of your friend’s birthday and you can count on most the world to check social media.๐Ÿ˜œ But your post sheds some light on the truth that it’d be nice if it wasn’t an afterthought. Thank you! Happy Birthday to all those who share a Holiday birthday! And Happy Birthday to you! I celebrate you!๐Ÿ’œ

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing! I love the way you stated that the things that speak your love language are often in short supply during the holidays. That’s a neat outlook. I’m sure your perspective might change someoneโ€™s perception and help them not feel overlooked. How precious of your Dad to tell you the whole world was celebrating you. I love it!

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  7. Lovely post, and so true. I am a Dec. 30th baby and am blessed to have parents who always tried to make sure I never felt jipped on my birthday. Many times though, they were the only ones who remembered (being a holiday baby is so much fun ๐Ÿ˜› ) so to all of you who read this with a birthday coming up, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

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